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End The Relationship and He Will Realize Your Absence
Faraz Ali
February 22, 2024
After a long time, several unsuccessful relationships, numerous unexplained life situations, and a few painful heartbreaks. After countless inquiries and numerous restless nights, it has become clear to me that individuals tend to value things only once they are no longer in possession of them.
So, it seems like you ended things with him. Perhaps he was the one who chose to go their separate ways. Maybe you initiated the breakup because he treated you poorly.
No matter the circumstances, you deeply long for his presence, and I understand your strong desire to have your ex back. Or maybe, you desire for him to have feelings for you again!
You wish for him to recognize the incredible woman he once had... and unfortunately let go.
I can relate to that as well. And honestly, occasionally, I still struggle with the temptation to share that picture and make him experience some pain!
My dear, attempting to validate yourself to someone will only result in increased distress and a negative impact on your self-confidence over time. What could possibly alter their perspective if they were unable to grasp it previously?
End the relationship; he will realize your absence! Let me explain the benefits of implementing the no-contact rule.
Not having contact doesn't imply that you cease communication with him through WhatsApp, but rather that you maintain a connection with him on Instagram. When there is no contact, it indicates that the individual has been prohibited from accessing any platforms available.
Since I have experience with this situation (more than I care to admit), I can provide you with some simple guidelines: block his number, his Instagram, and, if needed, his best friend's Instagram. It's important to respect the privacy of your mutual friends and avoid prying into their personal lives.
It's likely that you've made similar promises to cut ties with him before. However, this time it would be beneficial for you to take action. Allow me to explain:
1. He will definitely realize when you’re not there.
If you create a captivating Instagram story, it may make him realize what he's missing. If you send him a text to wish him a Merry Christmas, he will recognize the kindness you've shown him...
After that, you share an amazing selfie, and it causes quite a stir with everyone admiring your attractiveness. Everyone, except for him. Is he intentionally doing it? He disregards you, yet beneath the surface, he's suffering.
No, that is not the case. No matter what you do, he won't pay attention. You were just as stunning and one-of-a-kind back then as you are at this moment. If he didn't understand it, then he won't have any clue either.
However, it's impossible to overlook the fact that you're not here! If you're interested in making your ex miss you, it may be helpful to consider cutting off contact with him. However, it's important to remember that you don't need to obsess over his feelings and thoughts.
2. He may be confused about the situation.
During your relationship, you frequently sensed a lack of appreciation from him. He didn’t appreciate your presence, assuming you would be there indefinitely.
Now that you are no longer in his life and he can't reach you, he will be very curious about what's going on in your life.
Do you have a new romantic partner? Do you feel content? What is preventing you from witnessing the events unfolding in his life? Are you not bothered by the fact that he's seeing someone else?
It can be quite disheartening for him to realize that you lack interest. It's painful when others don't care.
3. He will feel your absence
From my experience, I've learned that if you want a man to miss you, it's important to demonstrate that he isn't your sole focus.
Many individuals tend to overlook and underestimate the value of things (and people). Once we become familiar with something, we tend to feel a sense of ownership over it. It is often when we lose things that we truly grasp their worth.
This is a common occurrence, particularly in relationships that have lasted for a long time. Partners sometimes overlook the small details about each other and tend to fixate on what they lack.
Things often seem better on the other side. By ending your connection with him, you will remove something he has grown used to: your company, your communication, your affection for him. Once he no longer possesses these things, he will begin to feel their absence.
4. You can avoid unnecessary pain and frustration.
Consider cutting him off for the sake of your peace, as it is a crucial decision to make. What is the importance of reviewing his social media? Whenever you witness his joy, enjoyment, and pursuit of a fulfilling life, you may experience feelings of sadness and despair. Do you feel like you hold no significance to him?
Instead of fixating on your ex-boyfriend, it would be more beneficial to direct your energy towards your own life. I probably shouldn't disclose that to you.
Now, simply click the button labeled "unfollow/unfriend/block" and have a great day ahead. Or at least make an effort to appear as if you understand and simplify. Keep pushing forward, even if you don't feel confident yet.
5. You will experience a sense of empowerment
Whenever you pursue individuals who are uninterested or constantly seek validation, you diminish your own personal strength. When you place someone on a pedestal and allow their actions to dictate your self-worth, you grant them full power over you.
There is more to cutting him off than just making him miss you. Now is the time to focus on safeguarding yourself during your most vulnerable moments and regaining control over your life. It's important to prioritize yourself and allow him to realize what he's missed.
6. You will exude a strong presence
When you have a deep grasp and find things easy to comprehend, you appear fantastic. You will come across as extremely self-assured and assertive in his eyes.
He anticipated that you would experience sadness and a sense of despair. He anticipated a higher level of engagement on his social media platforms, as well as more frequent communication through calls and texts.
But just take a moment to appreciate how you're absolutely killing it, effortlessly going about your day, and flourishing. He'll be eager to give you another opportunity soon.
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